Thursday, 19 March 2015

Experience with Children


Are children asset or liability.

Once can argue both ways on this topic. My personal belief is that we can make the children what we want them to be, to most extent.

In dealing with children, the theory about situational leadership helps. In that theory the point is that on needs to act as per the level of one’s subordinate to lead him/her. That means one style of leadership will not work in all cases.

Similarly, one has to behave with children differently at different times. But the behavior should be consistent. Let me explain. One can point out issues in a child’ behavior. But few precautions will help deliver the message firmly but in a friendly tone. criticize the act and not the actor. Also don't use corporal punishment. This type of behavior help developing bond between parents and children.

Now a days children are getting exposed to life experiences from an early age. A parent can help them further if he/she creates more and more opportunities in that direction.  For example, letting them take (minor) decisions. Let them go out and purchase things on their own. This will teach them the way world works. A parent needs to be ready for some loss in the bargain.

Children can be used as good learning tool. If one discusses various topics with children above  15, one gets good inputs, which a parent can use.

Thus it all depends on how one reacts and how one uses children to mutual advantage, that determines relationship with children.

Lastly one has to respect a child’s privacy. This is important because, every one has his own secrets and others need to respect that space. This will not be a major problem as long as healthier bond exists between child and a parent.

Many of these methods, I used in my life and the response or result is very satisfactory.

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